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can also create your own profile.
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Friday, July 24, 2009
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Saturday, May 02, 2009
IMPORTANT: To the girls...I didn't break the elastic!
To all the special women I know.. ..
In April, Maya Angelou was interviewed by Oprah on her 70+ birthday. Oprah asked her what she thought of growing older.
And, there on television, she said it was 'exciting.' Regarding body changes, she said there were many, occurring every day...like her breasts. They seem to be in a race to see which will reach her waist, first.
The audience laughed so hard they cried. She is such an honest woman, with so much wisdom in her words!
Maya Angelou said this:
"I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.
"I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.
"I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you'll miss them when they're gone from your life.
"I've learned that making a 'living' is not the same thing as 'making a life.'
"I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. '
"I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw some things back.
"I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.
"I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.
"I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.
"I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."
Please send this to five phenomenal women today…
If you do, something good will happen: You will boost another woman's self-esteem.
If you don't...the elastic will break and your underpants will fall down around your ankles! I didn't take any chances on MY elastic breaking.... I sent it to a lot of special women I care for.
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Wednesday, April 22, 2009
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SharingHEARTS:Celebrating Marriages
Celebrating Marriage is an expression of sharing the art of giving, acknowledging and enhancing the "LOVE" and "UNITY" of holy matrimony. Share with "US" your marriage mission, vision, purpose and biblical foundation…, that have strengthen you…, your family and/or others through memorable moments. Tell us about it in an essay of 700 words or less. Up to three marriages will be featured in an upcoming "SharingHEARTS-LoveUnityNus" online NewsLetter. Enter between September 18, 2009 and November 20, 2009; see below for official rules and how to enter.
1. In 700 words or less, share "YOUR" marriage…, expression of "Celebrating Marriage".
Entries will be judged equally on originality, clarity of ideas and grace of expression. Include your name, address, daytime phone number and email address. Entries may be submitted on or after 12:00 Noon CT on September 18, 2009 and must be submitted no later than 12:00 Noon CT on November 20, 2009. Please send all entries to LoveUnityNus@AOL.com. By participating, each entrant accepts these rules.
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3. You may submit only one entry.
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5. The essay must be the entrant's own original work, the subject matter must be true and the essay may not have been published previously, entered in any other contest or won any other award.
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7. There will be up to 4 winners but a minimum of at least one (as determined by the Judges using the above-referenced judging criteria). The winner(s) and their entries will be featured in the February 2010 issue of "SharingHEARTS-LoveUnityNus". Their entries may also be published on LoveUnityNus.com and/or HealingKNOWLEDGE.info (at the discretion of "SharingHEARTS-LoveUnityNus"
8. This contest is open to women who are legal residents of the 50 United States and DC, 18 years of age and older as of time of entry.
9. Judging will be completed on or about December 15, 2009 and winners will be notified by mail and/or email.
10. Each winner will be required to comply with all instructions in the prize notification letter and may be required to sign an affidavit of eligibility, a liability release and a publicity release (where permitted by law). If the completed signed forms are not received within 14 days of the date printed on the notification, prize may be forfeited and the entrant with the next highest ranked entry will be selected as the alternate winner.
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Friday, April 10, 2009
TOXIC Relationship
It's important to become EDUCATED on the 5 component of a "TOXIC Relationship".
A "TOXIC Relationship" will exhibit 1 of 5 serious components: "Control Issues", "Distrust", "Isolation" "Unnecessary Drama" and "Paranoid".
"Control Issues" are when we forget that "EVERYONE" has the GOD given right to make their owe personal choice....... so instead the victim is coerced into being CONTROLLED.
PROBLEM: 1. When we deny others that right.
2. When we 'the perpetrator' expect the "VICTIM" to think like him/her.
3. When we 'the "VICTIMS" are fearful of standing alone.
"Distrust" is a unhealthy component brought into the relationship, from past 'unnecessary drama'......, or it envelopes the fear of karma.
PROBLEMS: 1. When we choose to hold onto "Blind PROTECTION" to save matters of the heart.
2. When we refuse to share the inner core of the 'emotional self'.
3. When we can't TRUST ourselves..., trusting someone else will NEVER happen.
"Isolation" occur due to the fear of influence, inspiration and empowerment..., from family and friends.
PROBLEMS: 1. When we fear the power of another's voice, presence or resources.
2. When we secretly express jealousy of the "Support System' of our mate.
3. When we devalue the importance of connection.
"Unnecessary Drama" are expression of elementary issues..., exhibiting the behavior of a "Teenager".
PROBLEM: 1. When we have consciously made a decision, but for whatever reason 'back PADDLE" in staying true to the commitment.
2. When we say one thing and does another.
3. When we just want attention..., if NOT positive..., will accept NEGATIVE.
"Paranoid" is a PLAY on the mind....., reality is real, but the mind-play is TOXIC.
PROBLEM: 1. When we KNOW..., what is KNOWN to no other, because the mind is playing tricks.
2. When we play fiction into FACTS
3. When we allow our minds to TWIST reality into SICKNESS
If the relationship is comprised of 2 or more components, it is unhealthy. You must made a 'healthy choice', to seek out help for recovery. You must understand..., two sick people will only re-infect one another over and over. The unhealthy choice is to stay and get sicker and SICKER
"TOXIC Relationship" have the potential and capability of causing death or serious debilitation.
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Monday, October 27, 2008
IMPORTANT: CHRISTIAN SISTERS
Thanks, for sharing ((((((Detra)))))) !!!
Christian Sisters
Just Beautiful!!
What makes me weak? My fears.
What makes me whole? My God.
What keeps me standing? My faith.
What makes me compassionate? My selflessness.
What makes me honest? My integrity.
What sustains my mind? My quest for knowledge.
What teaches me all lessons? My mistakes.
What lift's my head high? My pride, not arrogance.
What if I can't go on? Not an option.
What makes me victorious? My courage to climb.
What makes me competent? My confidence .
What makes me sensual? My insatiable essence.
What makes me beautiful? My everything.
What makes me a woman? My heart .
Who says I need love? I do.
What empowers me? My God & Me.
Who am I? I AM A STRONG CHRISTIAN WOMAN!
Keep this going ladies.
Send this to all of the beautiful ladies in your lives!
YOU HAVE 20 MINUTES TO TELL
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Monday, September 15, 2008
IMPORTANT: Are "YOU" Single ???
Even if you are married or not YOU know someone who is
Single-- Single~ Author Unknown~
What makes you think that just
becauseI am anAttractive woman of Godly intelligenceThat I'm
incomplete without a mate?Who told you thatWithout a manSomething's
missingFrom my life?And if so,What would that be?Love?I love
myselfAnd more importantlyI love the LordHe told me that when I
delight in Him,He will give me the desires of my heartSecurity?I have
everything I need according to His riches in glory.Intimacy?Now,
how's a man going to get to know me When he doesn't even know who he
is in the Lord?See my Father told me I'm above a ruby's worth And a
gem (which I am) does not seek It (I am) is soughtI'm single and
that's all right with meSee, it's not that I oppose relationshipsIt's
that I detest co-dependencyAs a womanI know it is not my roleTo chase
after any manEsther 2:14 readsThat I am to wait on my king and when
he's delighted in me. He will call me by my name.My Lord does not
intend for me to be needy or desperate.I am to be Cherished,
Relished, Valued, and Honored, It's not my job to convince him Or
Convict him of that, My mate will already know it And consistently
show it And he will stay on his knees daily Not just to adore me But
to praise the Lord for The virtuous woman he has found So, when you
see me by myself I'm not alone I know what I have coming to meI'm
single, and right now that's all I need to be! How about that!Please
forward this to all the women in your contacts list!Whether married
or single it applies to us all!'Where there is no vision, the people
perish.......'Proverbs 29:18
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Thursday, June 05, 2008
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Wednesday, February 27, 2008
Women: Never FORGET "YOUR" WORTH !!!
| The One Flaw in Women By the time the Lord made woman, He was into his sixth day of working overtime, an angel appeared and said..., "Why are you spending so much time on this one?" And the Lord answered, "Have you seen my spec sheet on her? She has to be completely washable, but not plastic, have over 200 movable parts, all replaceable and able to run on diet coke and leftovers, have a lap that can hold four children at one time, have a kiss that can cure anything from a scraped knee to a broken heart - and she will do everything with only two hands." The angel was astounded at the requirements..., Only two hands !!! ? No way!!! And that's just on the standard model ? That's too much work for one day. Wait until tomorrow to finish." "But I won't," the Lord protested. "I am so close to finishing this creation that is so close to my own heart. She already heals herself when she is sick AND can work 18- hour days." The angel moved closer and touched the woman. "But you have made her so soft, Lord." "She is soft," the Lord agreed, "but I have also made her tough. You have no idea what she can endure or accomplish." "Will she be able to think?," asked the angel. The Lord replied, "Not only will she be able to think, She will be able to reason and negotiate." The angel then noticed something, and reaching out, touched the woman's cheek. "Oops, it looks like you have a leak in this model. I told you that you were trying to put too much into this one." "That's not a leak," the Lord corrected. "That's a tear!" "What's the tear for?, " the angel asked. The Lord said, "the tear is her way of expressing her joy, Her sorrow, her pain, her disappointment, her love, Her loneliness, her grief and her pride." The angel was impressed. "You are a genius, Lord. You thought of everything! Woman is truly amazing." And she is !!! Women have strengths that amaze men. They bear hardships and they carry burdens, But they hold happiness, love and joy... They smile when they want to scream. They sing when they want to cry. They cry when they are happy And laugh when they are nervous. They fight for what they believe in. They stand up to injustice. They don't take "no" for an answer When they believe there is a better solution, They go without so their family can have. They go to the doctor with a frightened friend. They love unconditionally. They cry when their children excel And cheer when their friends get awards. They are happy when they hear about a birth or a wedding. Their hearts break when a friend dies. They grieve at the loss of a family member. Yet they are strong when they think there is no strength left. They know that a hug and a kiss can heal a broken heart. Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors. They'll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you. To show how much they care about you. The heart of a woman is what makes the world keep turning. They bring joy, hope and love. They have compassion and ideals. They give moral support to their family and friends. Women have vital things to say and everything to give. However, if there is one flaw in women, it is that THEY will, somehow in the mist of the unnecessary drama......, FORGET THEIR WORTH. |
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Saturday, December 01, 2007
Oprah Show submission: "Fabulously Fifty" era
A gathering of women who are excited and truly happy with embracing the joys of turning 50. I am sooo excited because on March 26, 2008, I will be entering my "Fabulously Fifty" era. I was really excited as I entered my..., "Freedom Forty" era.
40's LIFE Lessons Learned:
1. If "I" refused or didn't do it......., it would STILL get done. CONTROL
2. If "I" said "NO"......, it really wasn't the end of the world. RELEASE
3. If "I" wanted to MATTER......, my CHOICE needed to be placed on the table. VALIDATION
So, I'm soooo looking forward to learning the lessons of my "Fabulously Fifty" era.
Shirley
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Wednesday, September 19, 2007
A Wise Woman
A Wise Woman Builds Her House
By: Debi Pearl May 2001
A wise woman doesn't take anything for granted. She is thankful to be
loved and seeks to make herself more lovely.
A wise woman doesn't allow herself to be a liability but strives to be
an asset to the marriage bond. She looks for ways to make, save, and
use money wisely. Her husband knows he is a richer man because she is
his wife.
A wise woman seeks to be a part of her husband's life. His interest
becomes her interest. She looks for ways to help him in every endeavor
in which he is involved. When he needs a helping hand, it is her hand
that is there first.
A wise woman knows that his peace of mind (and sometimes, wise
understanding) is something she can give or take away by her
observations and conversation concerning circumstances or people. She
limits her conversation to the positive.
A wise woman sets a joyful mood in the household. She uses laughter,
music and happy times to stir the children to a positive, joyful frame
of mind. She knows this light-heartedness helps take stress off her
husband.
A wise woman gauges her husband's needs. She seeks to fulfill his
desires before even he is aware of them. She never leaves him
daydreaming outside the home. She supplies his every desire.
A wise woman understands that her husband's need to be honored is not
based on his performance but on his position. She learns quickly to
defer with enthusiasm to his ideas or plans. She looks for ways to
reverence him. She knows this is God's will for her life.
A wise woman is not pitiful, puny, or whinny. She seeks to be
confident, capable and thankful.
A wise woman does not dream of what "could have been." She sees
clearly that she is not God's gift to men; thus she is blessed in her
present circumstances. She learns to be content.
A wise woman never expects anyone to serve her; therefore she is never
disappointed. She is ready to help—a giver. By her example her
children learn to serve cheerfully and energetically.
A wise woman doesn't attempt to instruct her husband through feigned
questions. Her questions are sincere inquiries concerning his will.
A wise woman is always learning. She is open to change. She is ready
to hear. She wants to know. She doesn't cloud her mind with the
foolish folly of entertainment. She uses her time wisely.
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A Wise Woman Builds Her House
By: Debi Pearl May 2001
A wise woman doesn't take anything for granted. She is thankful to be
loved and seeks to make herself more lovely.
A wise woman doesn't allow herself to be a liability but strives to be
an asset to the marriage bond. She looks for ways to make, save, and
use money wisely. Her husband knows he is a richer man because she is
his wife.
A wise woman seeks to be a part of her husband's life. His interest
becomes her interest. She looks for ways to help him in every endeavor
in which he is involved. When he needs a helping hand, it is her hand
that is there first.
A wise woman knows that his peace of mind (and sometimes, wise
understanding) is something she can give or take away by her
observations and conversation concerning circumstances or people. She
limits her conversation to the positive.
A wise woman sets a joyful mood in the household. She uses laughter,
music and happy times to stir the children to a positive, joyful frame
of mind. She knows this light-heartedness helps take stress off her
husband.
A wise woman gauges her husband's needs. She seeks to fulfill his
desires before even he is aware of them. She never leaves him
daydreaming outside the home. She supplies his every desire.
A wise woman understands that her husband's need to be honored is not
based on his performance but on his position. She learns quickly to
defer with enthusiasm to his ideas or plans. She looks for ways to
reverence him. She knows this is God's will for her life.
A wise woman is not pitiful, puny, or whinny. She seeks to be
confident, capable and thankful.
A wise woman does not dream of what "could have been." She sees
clearly that she is not God's gift to men; thus she is blessed in her
present circumstances. She learns to be content.
A wise woman never expects anyone to serve her; therefore she is never
disappointed. She is ready to help—a giver. By her example her
children learn to serve cheerfully and energetically.
A wise woman doesn't attempt to instruct her husband through feigned
questions. Her questions are sincere inquiries concerning his will.
A wise woman is always learning. She is open to change. She is ready
to hear. She wants to know. She doesn't cloud her mind with the
foolish folly of entertainment. She uses her time wisely.
Peace and extended Mercy
Derrick
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By: Debi Pearl May 2001
A wise woman doesn't take anything for granted. She is thankful to be
loved and seeks to make herself more lovely.
A wise woman doesn't allow herself to be a liability but strives to be
an asset to the marriage bond. She looks for ways to make, save, and
use money wisely. Her husband knows he is a richer man because she is
his wife.
A wise woman seeks to be a part of her husband's life. His interest
becomes her interest. She looks for ways to help him in every endeavor
in which he is involved. When he needs a helping hand, it is her hand
that is there first.
A wise woman knows that his peace of mind (and sometimes, wise
understanding) is something she can give or take away by her
observations and conversation concerning circumstances or people. She
limits her conversation to the positive.
A wise woman sets a joyful mood in the household. She uses laughter,
music and happy times to stir the children to a positive, joyful frame
of mind. She knows this light-heartedness helps take stress off her
husband.
A wise woman gauges her husband's needs. She seeks to fulfill his
desires before even he is aware of them. She never leaves him
daydreaming outside the home. She supplies his every desire.
A wise woman understands that her husband's need to be honored is not
based on his performance but on his position. She learns quickly to
defer with enthusiasm to his ideas or plans. She looks for ways to
reverence him. She knows this is God's will for her life.
A wise woman is not pitiful, puny, or whinny. She seeks to be
confident, capable and thankful.
A wise woman does not dream of what "could have been." She sees
clearly that she is not God's gift to men; thus she is blessed in her
present circumstances. She learns to be content.
A wise woman never expects anyone to serve her; therefore she is never
disappointed. She is ready to help—a giver. By her example her
children learn to serve cheerfully and energetically.
A wise woman doesn't attempt to instruct her husband through feigned
questions. Her questions are sincere inquiries concerning his will.
A wise woman is always learning. She is open to change. She is ready
to hear. She wants to know. She doesn't cloud her mind with the
foolish folly of entertainment. She uses her time wisely.
Peace and extended Mercy
Derrick
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Thursday, August 23, 2007
WHY: I Love the "Intelligence of a Black MAN" !!!
White Woman's Opinion of Black Women
White women's opinion of black women & a brother's response...
White women's opinion of black women & a brother's response...
Please take a moment and read this.
Pretty Deep!!!
Thumbs up to this black man..
Enjoy.
It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men.
I'm so glad she got what she asked for (and more) !!!
Dear Jamie:
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.
Dear Jamie:
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.
I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about our relationship.
My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.
Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes.
I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them.
Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...
I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA
My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.
Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes.
I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them.
Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...
I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA
RESPONSE
Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.
Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy.
The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control.
I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women.
Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.
I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history!
It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.
It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise!
It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could <NEVER> date anyone except my black Queen.
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.
Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy.
The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control.
I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women.
Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.
I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history!
It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.
It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise!
It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could <NEVER> date anyone except my black Queen.
It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them.
Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women.
I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous?
I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.
Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women.
I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous?
I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.
BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children.
Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.
No offense taken, none given.
Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.
No offense taken, none given.
Signed, Black Royalty
Wow..., the BEAUTY of a true QUEEN !!!
We must pass this on to make the day of the Black Queens of our
acquaintances!!!
acquaintances!!!
Get a sneak peek of the all-new AOL.com.
Sunday, January 21, 2007
Male INTEGRITY
Ladies, would you rather be married to a man that can spend money on you with no problem? Or to a man that can show you the true meaning of love and willing to work hard to get you the finer things in life?
Just want to see what you ladies are thinking and what is important to you.
I would rather be embraced in "Love" and "Marriage", i.e. holy matrimony with a Man that has "INTEGRITY - firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values "
1. When a Man has integrity, he will be MORE than willing to work together, in our relationship to ensure that our "LOVE" is as equally satisfying for the both of "US".
2. When a Man has integrity, he will be MORE than willing to write the Vision and make it plain, without waking up one morning with a NEW vision that doesn't include, nor consider, whether it's in the best interest of our marriage or relationship.
i.e. exercising his clear understanding of the IMPORTANT of COMMUNICATION and COMMITMENT.
3. When a Man has integrity, he will be MORE than willing to take ownership of his position as the leader of his home.
i.e. he is the "Spiritual, Financial and Emotional overseer" for his wife and family.
4. When a Man has integrity, he will be MORE than willing to take on the responsibility and accountability of the WORDS that comes from his mouth.
5. When a Man has integrity, he will display NO hidden agendas... i.e. 'keeping secrets', 'telling lies' or 'making 'me' the lesser of his priorities'.
i.e. He will display the 3 most important character traits such as: HONESTY, HUMLIITY and a HARD WORKER......, to add favor to the "Love Connection", would be for him to be "Humorous" and "Handsome".
6. When a Man has integrity, he will be MORE than willing to share information concerning his comings and goings, with his wife or significant other, because he's intelligent enough to KNOW that 'crime against persons' doesn't just affect females only.
7. When a Man has integrity, he will be MORE than willing to ADMIT to himself and KNOW, within the deepest part of his heart..., when GOD has gifted HIM with a gift, in his wife and celebrate that KNOWLEDGE. Or if she's his "Significant Other", HE will ManUP and make the decision to make her his wife !!!
***Understanding that 7 is the number of COMPLETE.
Yes, just give 'me' a MAN with INTEGRITY !!!
Saturday, January 20, 2007
Saturday, June 24, 2006
Success
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Wednesday, March 08, 2006
Relationship FREEDOM
"YOUR" question: Can a woman, who have been ABUSE, in "HER" past...., CHOOSE to stay in a relationship, because "SHE" feels that there is VALUE in it, to HOLD onto ???
Just for a simple answer. "YES", because somewhere in THAT relationship "YOU" are getting some of your needs met.
First, thing "WE" all must come to admit..., understand..., and decide is..., with THIS life GOD gives "US" the freedom of CHOICE.
The freedom of CHOICE is soooo basic !!!
Let's define "HOPE" - 1 : to cherish a desire with anticipation <hopes for a promotion>
2 archaic : TRUST
transitive senses
1 : to desire with expectation of obtainment
2 : to expect with confidence : TRUST
2 archaic : TRUST
transitive senses
1 : to desire with expectation of obtainment
2 : to expect with confidence : TRUST
Now, that "WE" know..., with HOPE comes ANTICIPATION, for our relationships to develop into something REAL, UNBREAKABLE and SOLID.
1. We MUST admit, to the REALITY of our relationship.
*Is this relationship balanced ???
- Are 'my' needs, wants and desires being met ?
- Am "I" sincerely trying to meet the needs, wants and desires of my mate ?
- Are "WE" equally committed to working on having a "Healthy Relationship" ?
*Is there genuine TRUST in our relationship ???
- I'm "I" ACTIVELY looking for "HIS" indiscretions ?
- Is "HE" finding reasons to question 'my' activities ?
- Are "WE" equally committed to working on having a "Healthy Relationship" ?
*Is there freedom to share and COMMUINCATE openly in our relationship ???
- Do "I" feel safe to COMMUINCATE openly my fears, my insecurities and my mistakes, without having to FEEL judged ?
- Does "HE" trust "YOU" to share "HIS" fears, insecurities and mistakes, without having to be MADE to feel less THAN the Man, "HE" presented 'himself to be..., initially ?
- Are "WE" equally committed to working on having a "Healthy Relationship" ?
2. We MUST understand, any problems found in our relationships..., doesn't just lay in the courtyard of our mate.
So if "WE" choose to participate in the relationship, whatever causalities that's endeared, shoulder the responsibility of both parties.
Simply put: "YOU" are NOT a victim, once "YOU" choose to participate.
Major QUESTION: Are "WE" equally committed to working on having a "Healthy Relationship" ?
3. We MUST decide, is THIS relationship..., really working for the 'emotional, mental, physical, financial, and spiritual' aspect of a "Healthy Relationship".
IMPORTANT QUESTION to ask: - Are "WE" equally committed to working on having a "Healthy Relationship" ?
A Healthy Relationship is a COMMITMENT to work TOGETHER through the FEARS, INSECURITIES and any MISTAKES or indiscretions found in the relationship, to promote HEALING.
If it's "HER" choice to do so, is it something wrong with "HER" in making that choice ???
No, it's NOT..., if SHE" knows that she has a very COMMITED Man at HER side, who is equally COMMITED to working on a "Healthy Relationship" !!!
But, if "SHE's" moving on HOPE all by herself in the relationship......, then YES, it's something REALLY wrong with "HER" !!!
Shirley aka LoveUnity
Thursday, March 02, 2006
One Flaw In Women
One Flaw In Women
Women have strengths that amaze men.
They bear hardships and they carry burdens,
but they hold happiness, love and joy.
They smile when they want to scream.
They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy
and laugh when they are nervous.
They fight for what they believe in.
They stand up to injustice.
They don't take "no" for an answer
when they believe there is a better solution.
They go without so their family can have.
They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.
They love unconditionally.
They cry when their children excel
and cheer when their friends get awards.
They are happy when they hear about
a birth or a wedding.
Their hearts break when a friend dies.
They grieve at the loss of a family member,
yet they are strong when they
think there is no strength left.
They know that a hug and a kiss
can heal a broken heart.
Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.
They'll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you
to show how much they care about you.
The heart of a woman is what
makes the world keep turning.
They bring joy, hope and love.
They have compassion and ideas.
They give moral support to their
family and friends.
Women have vital things to say
and everything to give.
HOWEVER, IF THERE IS ONE FLAW IN WOMEN,
IT IS THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WORTH.
Please pass this along to all your women friends and relatives to remind them just
how amazing they are.
A.S.A.P. - ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER.
Ever wonder about the abbreviation A.S.A.P.?
Generally we think of it in terms of even more hurry and stress in our lives.
Maybe if we think of thisabbreviation in a different manner,
we will begin to find a new way to dealwith those rough days along the way.
*************
There's work to do, deadlines to meet;
You've got no time to spare,
But as you hurry and scurry-
ASAP - ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER
In the midst of family chaos,
"Quality time" is rare.
Do your best; let God do the rest-
ASAP - ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER
It may seem like your worries
Are more than you can bear.
Slow down and take a breather-
ASAP - ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER
God knows how stressful life is;
He wants to ease our cares,
And He'll respond to all your needs
A.S.A.P. - ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER.
Generally we think of it in terms of even more hurry and stress in our lives.
Maybe if we think of thisabbreviation in a different manner,
we will begin to find a new way to dealwith those rough days along the way.
*************
There's work to do, deadlines to meet;
You've got no time to spare,
But as you hurry and scurry-
ASAP - ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER
In the midst of family chaos,
"Quality time" is rare.
Do your best; let God do the rest-
ASAP - ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER
It may seem like your worries
Are more than you can bear.
Slow down and take a breather-
ASAP - ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER
God knows how stressful life is;
He wants to ease our cares,
And He'll respond to all your needs
A.S.A.P. - ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER.
Friday, February 10, 2006
FRIDAY..., LoveLIFE: Betting Your Love-Life On His "Potential" !!!
Sharing a THOUGHT !!!
Mistake #1) Betting Your Love-Life On His "Potential"
Do you know any women who want the man
they're dating to behave differently?
Of course you do.
And just like me, I'm sure you have friends
who date guys who don't have much going for them
or who don't treat them very well.
Somehow these women always have an excuse
for the guy's shortcomings.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple.
Women (and men) don't base their choices of
men on how "nice" or "good" someone is to them
day-to-day.
Women choose the men they do because they
feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Some women will continue to put up with a
guy that doesn't treat them very well.
Sometimes for months or years...
But why in the world would a woman do that!?
Well, to put it simply, they confuse the
strong attraction they feel for the guy with
a deeper "connection".
Women who do this are doomed to end up
in failed relationships with the "wrong" guys.
How do I know?
Because I've seen it at least a hundred
times...
And because I've been this guy in the past
myself.
Thinking back on past dating and relationships
I've had, I was selfish and didn't offer much.
I'm amazed the women put up with me.
But they did...all the while hoping that
I would somehow change.
The women I dated hoped I'd change.
The only thing they saw in me that led
them to want to keep me around was the "potential"
they saw in me to share my feelings and communicate
with them.
The potential for something better and
the potential for me to change and be a better
lover, boyfriend, companion or whatever...
The truth was, I was hopelessly bad at these
things at the time.
And more importantly, I wasn't even at a place
in my life where I knew how to or was interested
in developing a deep and committed relationship -
with ANYONE.
But deep down these women believed that if
they tried hard enough, that it would make up
for what was lacking.
They believed that I could become someone else
with them.... and that this would be easy for us
both.
Talk about a losing battle.
I doesn't make a lot of "logical" sense...
But until you accept that lots of women do
this AND that YOU could be doing it on some level,
you'll NEVER have the success with men that you
choose and want.
Do you know any women who want the man
they're dating to behave differently?
Of course you do.
And just like me, I'm sure you have friends
who date guys who don't have much going for them
or who don't treat them very well.
Somehow these women always have an excuse
for the guy's shortcomings.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple.
Women (and men) don't base their choices of
men on how "nice" or "good" someone is to them
day-to-day.
Women choose the men they do because they
feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Some women will continue to put up with a
guy that doesn't treat them very well.
Sometimes for months or years...
But why in the world would a woman do that!?
Well, to put it simply, they confuse the
strong attraction they feel for the guy with
a deeper "connection".
Women who do this are doomed to end up
in failed relationships with the "wrong" guys.
How do I know?
Because I've seen it at least a hundred
times...
And because I've been this guy in the past
myself.
Thinking back on past dating and relationships
I've had, I was selfish and didn't offer much.
I'm amazed the women put up with me.
But they did...all the while hoping that
I would somehow change.
The women I dated hoped I'd change.
The only thing they saw in me that led
them to want to keep me around was the "potential"
they saw in me to share my feelings and communicate
with them.
The potential for something better and
the potential for me to change and be a better
lover, boyfriend, companion or whatever...
The truth was, I was hopelessly bad at these
things at the time.
And more importantly, I wasn't even at a place
in my life where I knew how to or was interested
in developing a deep and committed relationship -
with ANYONE.
But deep down these women believed that if
they tried hard enough, that it would make up
for what was lacking.
They believed that I could become someone else
with them.... and that this would be easy for us
both.
Talk about a losing battle.
I doesn't make a lot of "logical" sense...
But until you accept that lots of women do
this AND that YOU could be doing it on some level,
you'll NEVER have the success with men that you
choose and want.
Lady Shirley
GOD's Blessings....
GOD's Blessings....
www.catchhimandkeephim.com
Wednesday, December 14, 2005
Do you qualify?
A Sister’s Poem and a Brother's Response
Do you qualify to be the man I need you to be?
Will you be able to recognize the things you
need to see? Will you be able to understand, that
I'm a good woman and in my life I need a good man?
Do you qualify?
Do you qualify to fertilize my unproduced seeds?
Can you fulfill, as I can, all of our needs?
Can you put me in my place if you see I am slippin?
Can you talk to me, wholeheartedly, not
constantly trippin??
Do you qualify?
Do you qualify to be called all mine?
Can you leave the other women and temptations
behind? Can you come to me with your problems and
not wait until it's too late?
Can you stand up and admit if you made a mistake?
Do you qualify?
Do you qualify to be the honest ebony man I
would want you to be?
Would you be able to look me in my eyes and
admit your feelings to me?
Could you take me in your arms and make love to
me all night long?
Can you be sensitive and still be strong?
Do you qualify?
Do you qualify to be my friend as well as my
lover? Can you put our love before any other?
Can you cherish me as if I were Diamonds &
Gold? Can you make me feel like I'm the last
woman you'll ever hold?
Do you qualify?
Do you qualify to be called a good man?
If I have doubts can you reassure me and understand?
Can your love intoxicate me as if I were High?
To be in my life, I need to know,
DO YOU QUALIFY?
The Brother's Response:
You ask, do I qualify.
Can I fulfill your needs and become the man you need me to be?
My sister, are you prepared for what you've asked for?
Can you handle the responsibility?
Can you accept that, by GOD, I am the chosen?
one, the authority, the comforter, and the head?
Will you submit and willingly follow my path?
Or will you fight with me instead?
If I am your King, will you treat me as such?
Will I get the best of your beauty and poise?
Or will I be subjected to an appearance
neglected, and checked with some serious noise?
When I talk, will you listen?
I mean whole heartedly and feel me?
Or will you rush me just to make your point too?
Can I be the man at all times? Even when it hurts?
Or is it just when it's convenient for you?
Can you love me for me, and not who you wish I could be?
Will you see the strong Black Man within?
Or will you always remind me of the all
the past brothers behind me and make me pay for their sins?
If I don't send you flowers the day your co-worker
received some, will you know that I love you still?
Or will my good name be uttered along with those other doggish brothers?
Will you question if my commitment is real?
Will you be patient and teach me to understand you,
and allow my knowledge of your needs to grow?
Or will you shut me out when I ask, Baby
what's wrong?
Or will you respond with, "Well a REAL man would know!"
When we first met, what was it that caught your
eye? Was it my mind, my heart, my personality?
Or was it my suit, or my job, or do you love
what I drive, instead of what's driving me?
Yes I can, and I will, make love to you from midnight to the dawning of the sun.
But, if I tell you I'm tired, will you trust
I'm sincere or believe that there must be another one?
My sister, I love you and my heart can be yours. No woman could lead me astray.
But like you, I have needs, so I beg of you, please, in this love thang meet me half way.
In life's tough times I'll hold you, in the rough times I'll mold you;
your simplest wish will be my command.
My life is yours if need be.
Yes you can fully bleed me, and when hell comes, in your place, I'll stand.
A good relationship is a powerful institution that must be built on a foundation of two.
So to answer your question,
YES sister, I do qualify.
Now, more importantly.....!
Do you
Thursday, December 08, 2005
The VALUE of Time !!!
To realize
The value of a sister:
Ask someone
Who doesn't have one
To realize
The value of ten years:
Ask a newly
Divorced couple.
To realize
The value of four years:
Ask a graduate.
To realize
The value of one year:
Ask a student who
Has failed a final exam.
To realize
The value of nine months:
Ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn.
To realize
The value of one month:
Ask a mother
who has given birth to
A premature baby.
To realize
The value of one week:
Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.
To realize
The value of one minute:
Ask a person
Who has missed the train, bus or plane.
To realize
The value of one-second:
Ask a person
Who has survived an accident.
Time waits for no one.
Treasure every moment you have.
You will treasure it even more when
you can share it with someone special.
To realize the value of a friend or family member:
LOSE ONE.
The value of a sister:
Ask someone
Who doesn't have one
To realize
The value of ten years:
Ask a newly
Divorced couple.
To realize
The value of four years:
Ask a graduate.
To realize
The value of one year:
Ask a student who
Has failed a final exam.
To realize
The value of nine months:
Ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn.
To realize
The value of one month:
Ask a mother
who has given birth to
A premature baby.
To realize
The value of one week:
Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.
To realize
The value of one minute:
Ask a person
Who has missed the train, bus or plane.
To realize
The value of one-second:
Ask a person
Who has survived an accident.
Time waits for no one.
Treasure every moment you have.
You will treasure it even more when
you can share it with someone special.
To realize the value of a friend or family member:
LOSE ONE.
Saturday, October 15, 2005
25 THINGS A SISTA SHOULD NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR...
1. Never apologize for pursuing what makes you happy. Even if you need to quit your job, transfer schools, or move across country, always do what you really want.
2. Never apologize for using proper English. Keeping it real doesn't mean speaking Ebonics.
3. Never apologize for giving your best in a relationship that just didn't work out.
4. Never apologize for being successful. Only haters want to keep you at their level.
5. Never apologize for crying. Wear waterproof mascara and express yourself.
6. Never apologize for ten pounds you need to lose. People who truly care about you will accept you as you are.
7. Never apologize for being frugal. Just because you save your money instead of blowing it on the latest fashion emergency doesn't mean you're cheap.
8. Don't apologize for being a single Mom. Babies are a blessing.
9. Never apologize for treating yourself to something special.
Sometimes you have to show yourself some appreciation.
10. Never apologize for leaving an abusive relationship. Your safety should always be a priority.
11. Never apologize for keeping the ring even if you did not get
married.
12. Never apologize for setting high standards in a relationship. You know what you can tolerate and what simply gets on your nerves.
13. Never apologize for saying NO.
14. Never apologize for asking for what you want in bed. If you don't, then who will?
15. Never apologize for wearing a weave or braids. You bought it so it's yours.
16. Never apologize to your new friends about old friends. There's a reason she's been your girl from day one.
17. Never apologize for ordering dessert or more than one dessert.
18. Never apologize for dating outside your race. Just because you found Mr. Right across the color line doesn't mean you don't love your brothas.
19. Never apologize for demanding respect. You are to always be treated as a queen.
20. Never apologize for not knowing how to cook. Even if you can't burn like Grandma you know how to order good take out. (Right Girl!)
21. Never apologize for your taste in clothes. It's your style.
22. Never apologize for changing your mind, it is your prerogative.
23. Never apologize for making a decision from your heart, even if others don't agree. You have to live with the consequences not them.
24. Never apologize for making more money than your man, you work hard and you deserve to get paid.
25. Never apologize for being you!
"KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND KEEP MOVING FORWARD"
2. Never apologize for using proper English. Keeping it real doesn't mean speaking Ebonics.
3. Never apologize for giving your best in a relationship that just didn't work out.
4. Never apologize for being successful. Only haters want to keep you at their level.
5. Never apologize for crying. Wear waterproof mascara and express yourself.
6. Never apologize for ten pounds you need to lose. People who truly care about you will accept you as you are.
7. Never apologize for being frugal. Just because you save your money instead of blowing it on the latest fashion emergency doesn't mean you're cheap.
8. Don't apologize for being a single Mom. Babies are a blessing.
9. Never apologize for treating yourself to something special.
Sometimes you have to show yourself some appreciation.
10. Never apologize for leaving an abusive relationship. Your safety should always be a priority.
11. Never apologize for keeping the ring even if you did not get
married.
12. Never apologize for setting high standards in a relationship. You know what you can tolerate and what simply gets on your nerves.
13. Never apologize for saying NO.
14. Never apologize for asking for what you want in bed. If you don't, then who will?
15. Never apologize for wearing a weave or braids. You bought it so it's yours.
16. Never apologize to your new friends about old friends. There's a reason she's been your girl from day one.
17. Never apologize for ordering dessert or more than one dessert.
18. Never apologize for dating outside your race. Just because you found Mr. Right across the color line doesn't mean you don't love your brothas.
19. Never apologize for demanding respect. You are to always be treated as a queen.
20. Never apologize for not knowing how to cook. Even if you can't burn like Grandma you know how to order good take out. (Right Girl!)
21. Never apologize for your taste in clothes. It's your style.
22. Never apologize for changing your mind, it is your prerogative.
23. Never apologize for making a decision from your heart, even if others don't agree. You have to live with the consequences not them.
24. Never apologize for making more money than your man, you work hard and you deserve to get paid.
25. Never apologize for being you!
"KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND KEEP MOVING FORWARD"
Tuesday, August 30, 2005
HIV / AID
This message is from LoveUnity in forum Mahogany Love.
The subject is: HIV / AID.
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LoveUnity says to you:
Who should bear the burden of PROTECTING...
Forum: Mahogany Love
Subject : TELL ME, TELL ME WHO...
From : LoveUnity
To : blk15221
Posted : 8/26/2005 12:32 AM
c) EACH PARTNER BEARS EQUAL RESPONSIBILITY
In my opinion, BOTH parties bear the RESPONSIBILITY and the ACCOUNTABILITY, because EACH one must KNOW by now the prevalence of the spread of HIV/AID and each understand the severity of this disease. We KNOW, that MANY aren't HONEST or VIGILANT concerning who THEY choose to share their 'blody fliuds' with..., or else the number of infections would be declining. So, EITHER 'WE" don't care or believe the numbers or "WE'RE" still living with the 'mind-set' that "It can't or won't happen to ME" !!!
Sunday, August 28, 2005
Questions? Email Your Sponsor:Friday, August 19, 2005
7 "A's" Relationships Require !!!
Loving the "UNITY" in "US"...
LoveUnityNus aspires to bring UNDERSTANDING, COHESIVENESS and HARMONY, through "LoveTALK", which breaks down the 7 languages of "LOVE"..., to enhance COMMUNICATION, to share with CLARITY and to stir up a desire to COMMIT, to understanding the need for...
1. attention - - a condition of readiness for such attention involving especially a selective narrowing or focusing of consciousness and receptivity
2. acceptance - the quality or state of being accepted or acceptable.
3. action - an act of will.
4. affection - a moderate feeling or emotion.
5. approval - an act or instance of approving.
6. affirmation - the act of affirming, a positive assertion.
and
7. appreciation - an expression of admiration and gratitude.
It helps to embrace the important of "Interpersonal Relationship Skills", because it HIGHLIGHTS the importants of dialoguing and UNDERSTANDING that it's MORE than a selfish exchange and finally a DEEPER, revelation of "The Nehemiah Factor" because it brings into focus how significant each INDIVIDUAL is..., in a group setting and how diverse "WE" are as a group..., now "WE" have come to embrace "OUR" diversities, because it's what GOD utilizes, to PROVOKE a oneness in HIM !!!
PrayerVISUALS
LoveUnityNus.com
LoveUnityNus aspires to bring UNDERSTANDING, COHESIVENESS and HARMONY, through "LoveTALK", which breaks down the 7 languages of "LOVE"..., to enhance COMMUNICATION, to share with CLARITY and to stir up a desire to COMMIT, to understanding the need for...
1. attention - - a condition of readiness for such attention involving especially a selective narrowing or focusing of consciousness and receptivity
2. acceptance - the quality or state of being accepted or acceptable.
3. action - an act of will.
4. affection - a moderate feeling or emotion.
5. approval - an act or instance of approving.
6. affirmation - the act of affirming, a positive assertion.
and
7. appreciation - an expression of admiration and gratitude.
It helps to embrace the important of "Interpersonal Relationship Skills", because it HIGHLIGHTS the importants of dialoguing and UNDERSTANDING that it's MORE than a selfish exchange and finally a DEEPER, revelation of "The Nehemiah Factor" because it brings into focus how significant each INDIVIDUAL is..., in a group setting and how diverse "WE" are as a group..., now "WE" have come to embrace "OUR" diversities, because it's what GOD utilizes, to PROVOKE a oneness in HIM !!!
PrayerVISUALS
LoveUnityNus.com
Wednesday, August 17, 2005
Men, Power...,Purpose and Pathway
"OUR" (Men) possess the POWER..., the PURPOSE..., and the PATHWAY to bring HARMONY and HEALING to 'our' damaged relationships.
Ladies, Words...,Workmanship and Wisdom
"WE" (Ladies) possess within "US" the WORDS..., the WORKMANSHIP..., and the WISDOM to bring HARMONY and HEALING to 'our' damaged relationships.
Thursday, March 24, 2005
MEN
1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
4. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
5. Slower is better.
6. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
7. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then...
Heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
8. Don't settle.
9. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
10. Don't stay because you think "it will get better.
"You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
11. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
12. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
13. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
14. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
15. Never let a man know everything.
He will use it against you later.
16. You cannot change a man's behaviors.
Change comes from within.
17. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...
Even if he has more education or a better job.
18. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
19. Never let a man define who you are.
20. Never borrow someone else's man.
21. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
22. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
23. All men are NOT dogs.
24. You should not be the one doing all the bending...
Compromise is a two way street.
25. You need time to heal between relationships...There is nothing cute about baggage...
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
26. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...
A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.
27. Dating is fun...
Even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
28. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
29. Never move into his mother's house.
30. Never co-sign for a man.
31. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
32. Keep him in your radat but get to know others.
Thursday, February 17, 2005
Wednesday, February 16, 2005
playMAN
A Man, that will allow a Woman..., any WOMAN to dictate to "HIM", what level of a relationship..., "HE" will maintain with "HIS" child/ren, is a playMAN !!!
playWOMAN
...and ANY woman, that would devise a plan..., to derail the relationship of a FATHER and "HIS" child/ren..., IMHO will one day come to realize, that the DAY will come, when the child/ren will come to understand, what a conniving, lowDOWN dirty stanch "SHE" really have ALWAYS been !!!
Monday, January 17, 2005
True Synchronized Love
True Synchronized Love
True Synchronized Love
1. Unselfish Love- It's trusting GOD, with "YOUR" vulnerabilities, as "YOU" learn to deny "SELF".
2. Passionate Love - It's reliable LOVE in crucial moments. It's understanding the POWER of Love and utilizing it effectively with expressing intense feelings or affections.
3. Acceptation Love" - It's sharing the favorable approval of the LOVE you hold.
4. Humanity Love - It's understanding the HUMANITY in "YOU" and Others.
5. Forgiving Love - It's the integrity of KNOWING, that no one is prefect, is subject to mistakes and will falter.
6. Compromising Love - It's a willingness to feel the CONCERNS, FEARS or MISUNDERSTANDING of "YOUR" love...enough to release your stance for HARMONY.
7. Commitment Love - It's the assurance THAT through the THICK and the THIN, the "RELATIONSHIP" is solid.
The Process of Unconditional Love.
What is a LoveUnityNus Relationship ?
It's when your "LoveUnity" has endured the Drama,
the Playgaming and the unnecessary Fears, and has mutually decided that you're in it for KEEPS. It's when together the "LoveUnity" has come to PEACE with the...
LOVE, TRUST, HONESTY, COMMITMENT and true INTIMACY.
Choosing..., the CHOICE to CHOOSE
1. "Choice to Choose" - We ALL possess within "US" the
power to choose. Remember GOD gives "US" freedom of choice.
2. "Letting-Go of the Drama" - We have to consciously choose
to refuse to participate in the Drama, the Issue, the
Problem, the PlayGaming, the Dirt and the
WhatChaMoCallIt...... Remember GOD is of Peace.
3. "Coming out of the WILDERNESS" - Once "WE" have been
BLESSED with new revelation, new knowledge or new awareness
implement it, act on it or make it applicable to "your"
renewed spirit...... Remember GOD's plan for "OUR
lives, "Wholeness".
4. "Sharing the Healing" - As "YOU" share the healing, it
begin to savor the Taste of Accomplishment, to express the
Sound of Victory, to see the Look of Knowing, to expose
the Aroma of Confident and to Feel the peace of
Solidarity...... Remember GOD is of order.
5. "Life Lesson Learned" - Knowledge is POWER !!! Once "WE"
learn the lesson, don't allow the devil to come STEAL the
blessing, because "he" will definitely try. Understand
the "WHO", "WHAT", "WHEN", "WHERE" and the "WHY"......
Remember GOD said, "in ALL thy getting...get "UNDERSTANDING".
6. "Enjoy the Healing" - Rest in the Quietness, Enjoy the
Tranquillity and inhale the Peace...... Remember GOD
leads "US" to SERENITY.
7. "Giving and Receiving Forgiveness" - If "WE" would allow
the HOLY SPIRIT to woe "our" hearts, this part of the
process, really wouldn't be as difficult. GOD has
given "US" the example of "Unconditional Loving", by
LOVING "us" despite "US", but "WE" really can't understand
or grasp the POTENCY of this LOVE, because "WE" only have
the world's love to compare it to......BUT if "WE" could
only understand that GOD's LOVE is incomparable. If "WE"
would understand GOD's orginal plan......"Let us make
Man/Woman in our own image". If "WE" could only understand
that GOD has a HEART of FORGIVENESS, then "WE" would understand through forgiveness comes PEACE.
Keeping a Relationship
Keeping a Relationship...requires "Intimate Communication" - a process by which very personal or private information is exchanged between individuals to enhance the INTIMACY of their relationship.Keeping a Relationship...requires "Limitless Honesty" - implies an unbounds refusal to lie, steal, or deceive in any way. Keeping a Relationship...requires "Commitment Trust" - to pledge to commit or place TRUST in one's care and staying TRUE to an agreement, pledge or vow with HONOR.
BUT, unfortunately today "WE" live in an "Instant Gratification" and the "Microwave Era", so if the Relationship isn't going in......, "Me, Myself and I" way, THEN it's just......find another lover.
Please understand, the easiest move to take in "Keeping a Relationship", requires WORK, so do "YOU" value the relationship enough to put in the necessary WORK ???
Healthy Relationship
1. Communication with HONESTY and TRUST, because "YOU" must feel free to share "YOUR" hidden thoughts, fears and uncertainty.
2. Love, because it give "YOU" a feeling of being wanted and needed.
3. Good healthy SEX with Fidelity, because it KEEPS everything in the relationship......BONDED
4. Compatibility and relaxing Fun, because it increases the spontaneity in the relationship
5. Responsibility and Accountability, because it serves as a blueprint as to the role "YOU" will assume in the relationship and allow room for needed adjustments.
6. Compromise, because there will be moment that "YOU" will have to release "YOUR" stance.....through the LOVE that is shared.
7. Commitment, because for a relationship to survive, there MUST be a COMMITMENT agreed upon.
Asking for HELP !!!
Asking for HELP !!!
The way life is today......it's REALLY not hard to S T R E S S out.
1. Yes, everyone NEED relief from the DRAMA of life.
* Please don't take 'her' cries for HELP lightly.
* Please KNOW, that it is the "WARNING" signal.
* Please SEEK for help now, before it's to late.
2. It is IMPORTANT to always have an outlet.
* It's on the NEWS daily, the destruction
of FAMILY.
* It's becoming a common tread for "Mothers"
to destroy their own child/ren.
* It's becoming a common tread for "Fathers"
to destroy their whole family.
3. What "SHE" should do ?
* Take "HER" child/ren to a SAFE place and ask
for HELP.
*Church
*Hospital / Police Station / Fire Station
*Family
* Things "SHE" can't change....Change the way
"SHE" think about it. (recite...The SERENITY prayer)
* Accept that "SHE" is POWERLESS and give it
to GOD.
Relationship Healing
To Understand A MAN
1. His needs for admiration and respect.
She understands and appreciates his value and achievements more than anything else.
She reminds him of his capabilities and helps him maintain his walk with God.
She is proud of her husband and strengthen his Self-confidence and his Self-Esteem.
She exhibit true expression of sincere admiration for the man she loves.
She STANDS up to all for the Man, she has chosen to share her life with.
(Ephesians 22:23,33)
2. His need for sexual fulfillment.
She becomes an excellent sexual partner to him, for him, and become of him.
She studies her own response to ensure that she bring out the best in him.
She share important insight with him to enhance their commuincation skills.
She understands his desire for intimacy, by the expression of his non-verbal clues.
She provokes a yearning inside of him that no one else can fulfill, but her.
(Proverbs 5:15-29, Song Of Solomon 4:9-5:1, I Cor 7:1-5, Hebrews 13:4)
3. His need for home support.
She creates a home that offers him an atmosphere of peace and quiet.
She manages his home and cares for their children.
She is a gentle reminder of the vision/plan he has set for their family.
She ensure that their home maintain the spirit of a safe haven.
She sets the tone laughter, fun and happy memories.
(Proverbs 9:13, 19:13, 21:9, 19, 25:24)
4. His need for her attractiveness.
She possesses a Christ-like spirit.
She has an expression of inner and outer beauty.
She exhibit a personate of kindness, love and peace.
She stay spiritually and physically sound by reading GOD's word and exercising.
She has a sincere passion for caring for others.
(Song of Solomon 1:8-10, 2:2, 6:13, 7:9, I Peter 3:1-5)
5. His need for a life companion.
She develops mutual interests in activities her husband enjoys.
She invite him to learn/discovers those activities she enjoys.
She is willing to give her husband the downtime, that he say he need.
She encourages friendship with others, providing he keep her as number one.
She knows and trust him to be her best friend.
(Song of Solomon 8:1-2,6).
To Understand A WOMAN
1. Her need for a spiritual leader. He is a man of courage, conviction, commitment, compassion, and character. He takes the initiative in cultivating a spiritual environment for his life and his family. He becomes a capable and competent student of GOD's Word. He lives his life by the word of GOD. He has the spirit of humility. He take the initiative to lead his family to Christ. He expresses compassion for others. (Psalm 1, Ephesians 5:23-27) 2. Her need to personal affirmation/appreciation. He appreciate and respects her position in his life. He verbalize an expression of praises, for her attributes and her qualities. He knows and accept that she is GOD's gift to him. He adores her virtues as his wife, his children's mother, & the homemaker of their home. He openly commends her, in the presence of others. He understands the important of listening to and fulfilling her wants & needs. He constantly marvelous at her ability to maintain these roles: mate, friend, love & companion. (Proverbs 31:28-29, Song of Solomon 4:1-7, 6:4-9, 7:1-9) 3.Her need for personal affection (romance). He showers her with timely and generous displays of loving affection. He tells her how much he cares for her...with a steadfast flow of words. He holds her hand as he listen to understand. He knows from the look in her eyes that she really does love him. He refuses to hide things from her or keep secrets. He trust her to trust him. He expresses LOVE, by giving her, cards, flowers, gifts & doing extra special things for her. (Song of Solomon 6:10, 13, Ephesians 5:28-29,33) 4. Her need for intimate conversation. He talks with her at the feeling level. EMOTIONALLY (heart to heart). He listens to her thoughts with sensitivity, interest, and concern. He convey a desire to communicate with her. He convey a desire to understand her. He responde to her concerns, her hopes and her dreams. He listens closely to her heart beat. He hears her inner thoughts before they are verbalized. (Song of Solomon 2:8-14, 8:13-14, I Peter 3:7) 5. Her need for honest and openness. He looks into her eyes and shares his hidden thoughts. He is open & honest, so he commits his heart to her, because he trusts her. He knows that she has his best interest at heart, so he welcome her kindness. He knows their strength is in their unity. He never put anyone before her. He wants her to trust him and feel secure, so he keeps her updated on their vision. He explains his plans & his vision clearly and completely because he regards himself as responsible for her. (Proverbs 15:2 (Ephesians 4:15). 6. Her need for home support and stability. He firmly shoulders the responsibility to their home. He is committed to providing food and clothing for their family. He provides and protects his family. He recognize a problem - then he brainstorm for concrete ways to bring improvements. He doesn't complaint or feel sorry for himself when things get tough. He doesn't hold onto past mistakes or old issuses, he gones forward with what works. He strongly consider his wife's insight, her suggestions and her common sense, when faced with a decision, that will affect the family as a whole. Remember: The husband/father is the security hub of the family (I Timothy 5:8) 7. Her need for family commitment. He puts his family first. He commits his time and energy to the spiritual upheaval of his family. He morally consider his behavior, as a GODLY man, husband, father and citizen. He understands that through his teachings, his children will inherit a Legacy. He intellectually share knowledge with his children, to ensure holistic development, for them. He admits that his heart is at peace because of his commitment to GOD. He share with others the knowledge gained from listening to the Holy Spirit. (Ephesians 6:4, Colossians 3:19-20)
"Running from the Chase"
What do I mean ?
When I speak of "Running from the Chase"
it's equivalent to "Running from the LOVE", not any love, but the LOVE. Have "YOU" ever thought about how you, were fine, when you were just hangin and chillin with the gurls / fellows...just kickin it. I mean "YOU" were just trippin, profilin and high stylin...you're NOT in no ""relationship" per se, you're just enjoying life. Then ALL of a sudden...it happens, "YOU" meet that special someone. The one THAT makes' you change your mind, about relationships and stuff. In the beginnning 'e'verythang's cool. I mean "YOU"RE" loving it. He / She sweatin "YOU" too. When she goes to the bedroom he's right behind her, cause "HE's" got her back. When he calls she dis ALL of her gurlfriends, cause "SHE's" gon stand by her MAN. Then approximately 3 to 9 months later, something happens...."We become instinctively aware of our vulnerabilities, once placed in each other's presence. We become aware of the brokeness inside and the need for completeness = WHOLENESS of self."
That's when "HE" start saying - Man forget "HER", she's crazy.
That's when "SHE" start saying - Gurl, "HE" ain't no MAN.
They both can see the MIRROR on the outside, but subconsciously or maybe consciously can't or refuses to LQQK on the inside of the mirror.
So the relationship has 1 of 3 rouths to travel.
1. Play it to Fake it = They play pretend that ALL is good and NEVER bring the issues to the table. As long as they have a Gurl / Boaz, e'verythang cool..
2. Confront the DRAMA = They bring the issues to the table, but that's when the "Name n Blame Game" starts. It's when "ghetto fallacious" - an isolated group, attempting to deceive or mislead communication begins.
3. StarBUCK moment = They bring the issues to the table and use good communication skills. It's when one refuses to belittle, attack or accuse another's actions.
It's a PROCESS, but if "YOU"RE" a FastTrack learner, it's possible to learn in "YOUR" right now relationship or the next one, you're blessed with.
1. "YOU" must KNOW and UNDERSTAND who you are. "YOU" must come to LOVE and ACCEPT you. "YOU" must be willing to do the work, of changing and strengthening your areas, of weaknesses or deficients.
2. Take the "Focus" off the outside of "YOU". LQQK deep at "YOU", especially on the inside. Understand, that "YOU", matter too.
3. Change what "YOU" can, accept what you can't. Become "YOUR" best "Gurlfriend" / "MalePal". Find "YOUR" passion.
4. Get a LIFE. You may need to kick "YOUR" computer to the curb. Give of "YOURSELF" to the helpless. When "YOU" do give, only give what you have. (You can't give an Apple, if you don't have an apple). If "YOU" don't LOVE yourself truly and completely, don't give away the little LOVE that you do have.
5. Forgive "YOURSELF" for playing the dumb, playing the fool and for crying...see 'me', "I'm the VICTIM". Release the PAIN - surrender (FORGIVENESS) and LOVE the hurt away. If it's NOT healing "YOU", get it go.
6. Guard "YOUR" heart, with the LOVE of self. Know "YOUR" limitations and "YOU" set your boundaries. Never COMPROMISE on solid foundations.
7. Test "YOUR" healing.
If "YOU" start feeling sick again, go back in the hospital. Open "YOUR" heart to receive "HIS" / "HER" love.
Enjoy "YOUR" new relationship.
It's the gift that GOD wanted you to have ALL the time.
LoveUnity
P.S. Things "YOU" need to understand:
IMPORTANT: Please KNOW that 2 sick persons in a "relationship" are infectious and toxic; ......can't HELP one another. ......will CONTINUE to cycle the illness. ......without an ANTIBIOTIC will cause the other to DIE
Intimate Communication - involves the willingness to share one's vulnerabilities, fears and anger. The willingness to allow and to trust the other, with this knowledge. It mean removing the "Walls of Protection".
Throughout this process, one will proceed with......
Limitless Honesty - involves sharing the hidden secret of the heart, it requires a "Commitment Trust", which is a Promise NEVER to violate the issues being revealed, throughout the life of the relationship. So the bottom line:
Write the Vision and make it plain. Test the Vision Live the Vision Trust GOD to perfect = to make perfect the Vision.
Example: Taking issue to the table..... Understanding "HER" boundaries / limitations. If #3 is violated, "YOU" are at a crossroad.
1. Staying out ALL night. 2. Infildelity 3. Lack of TRUST
~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ Understanding "HIS" boundaries / limitations. If #3 is violated, "YOU" are at a crossroad.
1. Spending to much money. 2. Refusing to KEEP sexually appease. 3. Infildelity
O.K., now that the 3 most important issues are on the table.
Each party admits, if neither issue is a problem for "HIM" or "HER" to deal with at this point in "HIS" or "HER" life at this presence moment.
O.K., so "SHE" comes front and center and admits. Spending to much money, yes I've had issues with this one in my past relationships. Then "SHE" share 3 lessons that were learned from her choice to spend to much money. ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ O.K., so "HE" comes front and center and admits. Staying out ALL night, yes I've had issues with this one in my past relationships. Then "HE" share 3 lessons that were learned from his choice to stay out all night.
Then deal with # 2, then #3 and from the KNOWLEDGE gained, they are EMPOWERED to make an intelligent choice. #1. Problem in relationships: Not understanding that lying DESTROYS trust.
Work with the weaknesses. Praise the strengths ****************************************** Keeping a Relationship...requires "Intimate Communication" - a process by which very personal or private information is exchanged between individuals to enhance the INTIMACY of their relationship.
Keeping a Relationship...requires "Limitless Honesty" - implies an unbounds refusal to lie, steal, or deceive in any way.
Keeping a Relationship...requires "Commitment Trust" - to pledge to commit or place TRUST in one's care and staying TRUE to an agreement, pledge or vow with HONOR.
So, "Running from the Chase / LOVE", is refusing to do the WORK required to receive a "Healthy Relationship".
If "YOU" read this in it's entirety......GOD's blessings
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